OOTB
I have not read all of this thread, I think it was all said on the other thread you started a few days ago.
Look, you are clearly in a difficult situation. fair enough.
BUT STOP DREAMING!!!! You will not help anyone out of the org by being an elder. Though a few on this site give examples of some elder managing to get there family out - this is very very rare. You will now find it more difficult to live the double life. I was an elder, realised it was not the truth and from then on it was totally frustrating. The only honourable thing I could do was step down as an elder. If staying an elder could help in getting family out we would have all done it, but, this site is full of ex elders.
It is worthy to note that if you are found out you will be disfellowshipped real quick, when you possibly could have faded and kept contact with family.
You mention the questions elders ask you before they appoint you. The child abuse question is old news - its been on the internet for years.
One of the other questions is along the lines of - Is their anything in your personal life that would disqualify you? You clearly had to dodge this one by not telling the truth, you cant possibly feel good about that!!!!!!
Anyway, all the best for the future and I hope you acheive what it is you are planning.
The scotsman.